Letter from The Legal Defense Foundation for Children


Letter from The Legal Defense Foundation for Children

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This e-mail was sent to the Board of the NCHR by Denise Marhoefer of The Legal Defense Foundation for Children on February 13, 2001. It is published here with the special consent of the writer, Denise Marhoefer.



Dear Ruby Harrold-Claesson, and associates;

I just wanted to write and tell you that I do share your same concerns with
the same problems....I am contacted by so many mothers who have lost their
Often it is larger numbers 4, 5, or 6,.........they seem to be not charged with
anything....they are removed for things such as a messy house, home school,
or as was mentioned, a parent not wanting to put their child on Ritalin.......
Without being charged they sometimes are offered one child back in exchange
for signing over the rights to the others...........
Whether it is oppression of the poor....
this is not something I know how to make sense of yet.......
I do know because I have four children, you do not have money and children,
at the same time....you make ends meet........
I also know that there is a definite correlation between having children,
especially larger numbers of them, and a mess......
matter of fact, it is conclusive.......
but certainly no reason for children to be taken from a loving mother....
the standards and expectations are attainable by no one.......
and especially not a mother who needs to be spending time playing and loving
their young ones.......
What I think is ironic, is how it is so acceptable for a male to have their
house a wreck, and this is socially acceptable,
but enter one female.....and all the sudden it is totally different. Why?
I am not against males or men, just absurdity....
Any society who thinks there will be no reprecussions for these actions
are going to be sadly mistaken......
the loss of a parent for something so trivial,
will effect these children........and no one is considering this.
It is not abusive to not have the best and the finest.......

What I have to wonder is where are the women's rights activists for
this...... or are they only active for those who are pro choice.....
I work for both male and female children.....I work with male as well as
I have been turned down for funding because I do not solely benefit
women and girls.

At first, I thought, ok, it is just a problem that is happening to a family down the street.
Then I find several in the state, then I find hundreds and hundreds nation wide
........and now all that is happening everywhere............

where do you start?

How do you start?

I thank you for listening, for actually my pain is just from one mother on behalf of another...........


Denise Marhoefer

Denise Marhoefer
The Legal Defense Foundation for children

PO Box 65
Losantville, IN 47354
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